Honestly, relationship for Christians is a bit more complicated than it is for folks who are not believers. Those folks can just date whoever they want however they like. But for us it’s not that easy, when we start a relationship we don’t just think about the space we are trying to fill in our heart, or the satisfaction of having to share a part of our life with someone else. Since we are already living a Glory life, what we really consider before starting a relationship is if our life will still bring glory to God when we let someone in. And it is not just about maintaining the same level of grace we had when we were single, but how that grace level can be doubled, since we are now two, since we now have help.
Sometimes it’s hard, we get caught having a huge crush on an unbeliever who is kind, attractive, nice, polite, with a good attitude, but the fact that we are believers and they’re not will just set us off. And even when there are temptations to compromise a little, to try and see if we can win them over to God’s side, we cannot do it, because we know that God will not be happy with our decision to yoke with them, unless our intention is to help them find salvation, rather than intimacy.
For us it is not about the passion or the emotional drive, a relationship has to lead somewhere. A relationship is supposed to make us better than when we were still single. A relationship is supposed to grow our love walk with God. The decision to share a part of our life with someone else is so we can double our level of grace. Our partner does not become our focus, rather they help us keep our focus on God.
I don’t know about you, but I will rather be alone and happy in a sweet fellowship with God, than starting a relationship that will drag me back into the pit where God found me.
#ConfessionsOfAGoodMan -Mr. Abhyacintho